Sixty percent said they dreamed of giving or receiving fellatio or cunnilingus. Top sexual novelty fantasies involved oral and anal play, particularly among those who rarely or never experienced them in real life. Fantasies of being forced into sex were also very popular-reported by almost two-thirds of the women and half the men. More than half of Lehmiller’s sample fantasized about receiving or administering intense sensation, the BDSM term for consensual pain, with most preferring to receive it. More people fantasized about submission than domination. Half fantasized about discipline, i.e, erotic domination or submission (D/s), with 20 percent saying they had D/s fantasies often. One-third reported frequent bondage fantasies. More than three-quarters reported bondage fantasies-being tied up or restraining another.

Almost everyone in Lehmiller’s survey reported BDSM daydreams-96 percent of the women, 93 percent of the men. No wonder the BDSM romance trilogy, Fifty Shades of Grey, has become the most popular fiction of all time.

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Many people fantasized of many men and women playing together (swinging, orgies), while others focused on one person having sex with many others (gangbangs). The top multi-partner fantasy involved threesomes, with moresomes not far behind. Almost everyone reported having it-87 percent of the women, 95 percent of the men. Lehmiller discovered that Americans’ top erotic reveries fall into seven broad categories-three very popular, and four less so but still quite prevalent.

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